What are You Expecting?

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“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.”
― Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

“You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.”
― Lisa Kleypas, Love in the Afternoon

“Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”   Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

“We’re wired to expect the world to be brighter and more meaningful and more obviously interesting than it actually is. And when we realize that it isn’t, we start looking around for the real world.”
~ Lev Grossman

“There is nothing wrong with expectations per se, as it’s appropriate to set goals and work, properly, towards their fruition. But the instant we feel pain over life not going “my way,” our expectations have clearly taken an improper turn.” ~Guy Finley

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
― Bruce Lee

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life

Quotes from GoodReads.com


“Consider the expression, “I’m just human.” We need to remind ourselves the goal isn’t to emulate a machine, but to embrace the imperfection of being human. In our culture we move relentlessly toward greater emphasis on achievement and goal orientation. When we do so we seem to lose the capacity for wonder and awe. Could you imagine looking at a magnificent rainbow and complaining that one of the colors wasn’t perfect?”

~ Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W.,  The Problem with Perfection. 



“Socially prescribed perfectionism–believing that others will value you only if you are perfect–has been associated with depression and other problems, including suicide.

“I think the reason for that is that socially prescribed perfectionism has an element of pressure combined with a sense of helplessness and hopelessness,” explains Flett. Socially prescribed perfectionists, he notes, tend to feel that “the better I do, the better I’m expected to do.”

There are also clear problems with other-oriented perfectionism, the tendency to demand perfection from friends, family, co-workers and others. It can be particularly damaging for intimate relationships, says Hewitt.”  ~ Etienne Benson,  The Many Faces of Perfectionism. http://www.apa.org/monitor/nov03/manyfaces.aspx